Fighting Parental Alienation
In fighting parental alienation, the targeted parent must be attuned to the level of the child and the level of the alienation. There are three levels of alienation. benign, moderate and malignant. In benign alienation the parent may not even be aware that they are alienating their child. When their apparent subconscious alienation is brought to the benign parent's attention in an appropriate manner, they may correct their behavior accordingly.
Moderate alienation may subside as the divorcing parents settle into their new lifestyle. They usually mean well and consider both parents necessary in the healthy raising of the child. Moderate alienators believe they should have primary custody and should not be inconvenienced financially or by any other means. If they are presented with anything they perceive to be a threat, alienation is employed. Tactics of alienation may subside when the threat is no longer perceived to be present.
Malignant alienation often includes a parent suffering from one or more "cluster b" personality disorders and or bipolar disorder. These parents employ hostile aggressive parenting tactics as a means to permanently sever the child's relationship with the targeted parent.
To fight malignant alienation, it is important to arouse the child's ability to think critically. In this way the child will not just accept what he/she is told. By thinking critically the child is more likely to do what is right regardless of what they are told as opposed to doing what they are told regardless of what is right. It is critical that the targeted parent work around the alienating parent because co-parenting is probably not feasible. Communication lines must remain open between the child and targeted parent or a parentectomy is probably inevitable.
Moderate alienation may subside as the divorcing parents settle into their new lifestyle. They usually mean well and consider both parents necessary in the healthy raising of the child. Moderate alienators believe they should have primary custody and should not be inconvenienced financially or by any other means. If they are presented with anything they perceive to be a threat, alienation is employed. Tactics of alienation may subside when the threat is no longer perceived to be present.
Malignant alienation often includes a parent suffering from one or more "cluster b" personality disorders and or bipolar disorder. These parents employ hostile aggressive parenting tactics as a means to permanently sever the child's relationship with the targeted parent.
To fight malignant alienation, it is important to arouse the child's ability to think critically. In this way the child will not just accept what he/she is told. By thinking critically the child is more likely to do what is right regardless of what they are told as opposed to doing what they are told regardless of what is right. It is critical that the targeted parent work around the alienating parent because co-parenting is probably not feasible. Communication lines must remain open between the child and targeted parent or a parentectomy is probably inevitable.
